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Earlier I said why I think the cafe is the best place for a date with a girl especially if it's a first date. In this article, I will tell you about the main intricacies of having a date in a cafe: what to talk about, how to behave, whether it is worth paying for a girl, etc.

Date start

If you decide to have a date with your chosen one in a cafe, first of all, you need to choose appropriate place. Find good cafe for a romantic date with a girl, you can easily in almost any city. Even in small towns, you can find more than a dozen such establishments, not to mention large metropolitan areas.

I advise you to invite a girl to a place you know well, where you are sure of the quality of service and know the prices. It will be a big plus if the owners or employees of the cafe are your good friends. If everyone in the institution knows you and treats you with respect, this will allow you to impress the girl. If not, no problem either. Invite a girl to a good coffee shop or tea house, where the staff appreciates and treats each client politely.

I advise you to choose a cafe in some interesting place, for example, in a park or in the city center. This will allow you to continue the date with a romantic walk, which can be a great end to it. If you are determined to invite a girl to your house after the cafe, but you don’t have a car, you can choose a good institution near your house and then smoothly move there.

Important! In a cafe, one should not forget about the elementary rules of etiquette: open the door for the girl, help take off her coat, move the chair back so that she can sit down, offer the menu.

If you don’t want to spend a lot of money, and you agreed to meet for tea, when you come to a cafe, you can not take the menu at all, but simply ask: “Which tea do you like more: black or green?”, - and as soon as the waiter comes up, immediately order a drink. So you will not show yourself as a redneck and will be able to save your money. If you have a first date with this girl, and you have not previously discussed how to spend it, at the meeting you can tell her: “I suggest that you go to have tea in one place where you really like it.” Can add intrigue, saying that she would definitely like this place because of her interesting feature not characteristic of other girls. I will talk about the methods of creating intrigue and its positive impact on the beautiful half of humanity later.

What to talk about with a girl

You can talk to a girl in a cafe absolutely everything about what you want, and about what you are really interested in. Some pickup artists advise telling various emotional stories that will help get the girl on the right wavelength, and in no case should she be tediously interrogated about who she works for, who to study for, how many brothers and sisters she has, etc.

Of course, it makes sense to have an emotional conversation, tell fascinating stories, because in this way you bring the girl into a positive state, thereby arousing interest in yourself. But I do not agree that asking a girl about anything is not worth it. There are several reasons for this:

Personally, I am really interested to know what my new acquaintance is doing, whether she shares my interests and how she spends her free time. It is clear that if I am looking for a girl for one night, the selection criteria will be much lower than if I wanted to create a serious relationship with her. But they won't care. It happens that a young lady is beautiful in appearance, but terribly stupid. I don’t like such girls, and I usually end up with them without going to bed, even if they want, of course, if at the moment I have a permanent mistress.

On a date in a cafe, I advise you to relax and talk about what you are interested in. Almost all popular topics will do: movies, music, travel, sex, etc. Sex and gender relations I especially recommend. But here it is important not to go too far, so as not to seem preoccupied. It is more reasonable to ask a girl what she thinks about certain things.

Good phrases to start a conversation:

• Who do you think lies more: men or women?
• I'm interested in your opinion, who cheats more often: men or women?
• Why do girls fight over guys?
• Why are girls afraid to meet first?
• Why do women want sex more than men, but try to hide it?

As you can see, each of these topics is interesting, it can be easily developed and it has a sexual connotation, but at the same time it does not carry anything vulgar in itself. Talking with a girl on such topics, you evoke such emotions in her as interest, embarrassment, cheerfulness, and allow her to liberate herself, which is extremely important on a date.

Boring topics such as computers, cars, IT, higher mathematics, physics, philosophy and high matters, which are so interesting to many of us, are better to bypass the tenth road on a date. The only exception is if the girl herself understands such topics. And even then, I don't recommend it. For example, if she works in the field of IT, then it is possible that she understands the latest computer developments, but it is also likely that during the whole day at work she has already talked so much about it that computers are sitting in her liver and now she would like to just relax and chat about something unpretentious. Imagine a girl wants to have fun and sleep with you, and you start telling her about testing new applications for the latest iPhone model. Well, isn't it stupid?

Remember ! If you are endowed with natural artistry, you can tell a girl a few things in a fun way. interesting facts about space or deep sea fish. It will be good if it has to be in the subject, as it will emphasize your versatile development. But you should not turn the whole date into a discussion of a similar topic if the girl herself is not interested in her. In addition, it is far from a fact that you yourself will not get bored talking with such a girl.

How to behave on a date in a cafe

On a date in a cafe, behave naturally. Then the girl will feel light and relaxed - you will rest.

Arriving at the cafe, take care of the girl, choose the table at which you will sit. From the very beginning of the date, start touching her. Not to be confused with pawing. Touches should be light and unobtrusive: help the girl take off her coat, gently hug her waist, take her hand, in that spirit.

Important! Start touching the girl from the very beginning. So she will quickly get used to your touch, and will not regard it as something surprising if you suddenly want to touch her. Although, if you are not yet sure if you want to seduce this particular girl, you can wait a little with touching.

It is best to choose a table in the corner, closer to the window - this place is more intimate. Do not choose a table on the aisle. If the cafe has tables with sofas or booths, you can take the girl right there. It is desirable that the lights in the cafe be dimmed.

You should sit down, either opposite the girl, or next to her. It is better to sit next to her, because here it will be easier to start hugging a girl, arouse and kiss her. It also happens that you sat opposite the girl and in the process of communication realized that it was time to get closer to her. In this case, you can just stand up and sit next to her, saying that you are attracted to her like a magnet. It will be even better if you tell the girl to move in with you herself. Just take her gently by the hand and say, "Come to me." If the girl starts to refuse, you can change the topic, for example, talk about something tender, continuing to caress her hand, and then again invite her to move to you or sit next to her yourself. Here it is important to carefully calibrate (observe, understand and evaluate) the behavior of the girl and act in accordance with it. If a young lady behaves coldly and reacts negatively to your attempts to touch her, then you should stop them for now and try to arouse more trust and interest in yourself.

Remember! If a girl reacts negatively to your attempts to touch her, then she has no trust or interest in you. In such cases, it is useful to act according to the principle: one step back, two forward. That is, back off a little - stop pestering, change the topic, lull her vigilance, interest her even more, and then resume her attack again.

If you don't like a girl during a date, there's nothing wrong with ending the conversation with her and leaving. Learn to save your time. It is important to maintain elementary courtesy. Remember that the person may have been preparing for this date for a long time, and since if you invited her, then be kind enough to give her half an hour of your time, except when she is clearly inadequate.

How long should a date last

Several pickup books give clear guidance that the first date should be no longer than 30 minutes. I would recommend that you act according to the circumstances. If you feel good and comfortable with a girl, you can walk with her at least all night. If you are interested in sleeping with her today, you should not take the girl by the hand after half an hour and run headlong from the cafe. It often happens that in half an hour you do not have time to arouse interest and trust in a girl. In the case of fast (quick seduction on the same evening), you may need to spend more time with her in a cafe in order to not only inspire confidence, but also sufficiently excite her. This may take 1-1.5 hours. Further, of course, there is nothing to do in the cafe. You should either take her to your home, or move to another place.

If you're just sorting through a few new girls in order to find the best among them and build a relationship with her, a date in a cafe in your case should last within 30-60 minutes. This will be enough to decide what to do with this girl next.

The question of payment: who should pay

No matter what they say, but in our society it is customary for a guy to pay for a girl. And women among themselves, as well as in the course of communication with male friends, in most situations condemn those guys who do not pay for a girl on a date. On the other hand, my experience shows what to do so that the girl paid for you on a date, you can quite simply. Often this is much more effective than paying for the girl yourself, but not always.

I usually try not to pay for those women with whom I am not sure that I will succeed. In other cases, I advise you to act according to the circumstances. If the communication goes well and I like the girl, I can pay for her. If I don't like it and want to get out as soon as possible, I suggest paying the bill separately. I will say right away that the question for me is not so much in money, but in desire itself. If I don't want to do something, I won't do it. And I'll be honest with you, sometimes I don't want to spend my money on a girl who acts like a fool.

Important! Sometimes, for strategic reasons, it is useful for the girl to pay for you herself. The fact is that when a person invests in something (both psychologically and financially), he begins to appreciate it more.

This technique is especially good for pretentious beauties who are used to the fact that men always pay for them.

You can promote a girl to pay a bill in several simple ways:

• Tell her simply and directly: "I would be pleased if you treated me to a cup of tea." It is advisable to tell her this before you enter the cafe;
• In the cafe itself: “I’m wondering, have you ever paid for a guy? I would be pleased if you would pay for me now. It's not about money, I'm just wondering if you are capable of it?
• If she was late (and girls are often late): “You are late and you will be punished - you have a cup of coffee” or “I was so cold here while I was waiting for you. I don't even know how you're supposed to make amends. You can buy me a cup of hot chocolate."

It is important to say all this with a sense of humor. I do not remember a case when a girl would refuse to pay for me and would stop communicating with me after that, and there were many such cases.

If you don’t like how a girl behaves on a date, and you don’t want to pay for her, then just say that you are used to paying separately - pay your half of the bill and, in theory, you can leave. You can directly tell the girl that she has so much. Indeed, I once had such a case. I invited a girl on a date, she unexpectedly invited me to go to one of the most expensive restaurants in my city. I agreed. I ordered tea and she ordered a cappuccino. In the process of communication, I realized that I did not want to continue anything with her and asked for the bill. When the waiter brought it, I said that she had to pay a certain amount, to which she replied that she had no money, and asked her to lend this amount. I asked her:

How did you go to such an expensive restaurant with no money?

– I don’t know, I’m used to always being paid for me.

In defense of women, I can say that this happened only once. Since the bill was small, I paid it, because I didn’t want to spoil my nerves, but you have the right to do your own thing in a similar situation and no one has the right to condemn you.

Remember! When you go on a date, always have some cash with you. It is not necessary to spend them, but they should be, just in case.

There is also a situation when the girl herself offers to pay the bill separately. In this case, again, you should act according to the circumstances. Sometimes you need to agree, and sometimes, to speed up the process of seduction, you should include a "real man" and insist that you pay for two. It all depends on your plans for this girl, as well as on her behavior.

Remember! I'm not teaching you to rip off poor women, live off of them, or be greedy. There are simply women who are not worth spending money on, or you need to figure out what is more important for her: you or your money?

How to end a date

A date in a cafe can end in one of the following scenarios:

• you go for a walk;
• you are moving to another place;
• you go to her or to your house;
• you say goodbye, arranging the next meeting;
• you say goodbye knowing that you will never see each other again;
• another variant.

Most often, a date in a cafe ends with a regular walk around the city at night. You can immediately take the girl home, or you can sit with her somewhere on a bench or go to the cinema, for example. If you have a car, this will be a huge plus. You can take her to some romantic place - look at the lights of the city at night or at the stars. In the car, you can excite a girl and take her home or have sex with her right there.

If you like a girl, in a cafe you can act according to one of two strategies:

• behave in such a way that she agrees to come to the next meeting;
• seduce her tonight.

The difference between these two strategies is only in the presence of one component - arousal. If you are interesting to her and the girl trusts you, then she will agree to meet with you again, and if she is also excited, then by perseverance, you can invite her to your home right today.

It happens that you want to seduce a girl today, but she won't. In this case, you should be persistent. If a girl goes into a specific refusal, we should remember our old rule: one step back, two steps forward. You should slow down a little and make sure that the girl agrees to meet with you again. Perhaps she will be more accommodating at the next meeting.

Summary: How to have a date in a cafe

In conclusion, I want to highlight a few important points:

• in a cafe, try to get to know your chosen one better;
• talk about fun topics, avoid boring stories;
• if you like a girl, your main task in a cafe is to interest her and inspire confidence;
• if you want to seduce her tonight, after arousing interest and trust, excite her and be persistent; if she refuses, behave in such a way that she agrees to meet with you again;
• do not spend much;
• Don't waste your time and resources on a girl who doesn't suit you.

A date at a restaurant - or cafe - can be called ideal. Both of you should not be distracted by many extraneous factors: people passing by, harsh street sounds, weather conditions. You are guaranteed not to freeze and you will not have to stealthily wipe the sweat that has come out inopportunely. You have the opportunity to completely relax, starting from the physical level - sitting is much easier than walking. In the end, you can get a better look at your date, look into his eyes, catch the shade of a smile. Agree, it is much more difficult to do this when walking.

In case you do not know what to do with your hands, there are many small things on the table, from a fork to a glass. Psychologists say that unconsciously stroking small objects indicates your desire for intimacy. As if you want to stroke your interlocutor, but, not being able to do this yet, transfer your desire to the object. Now that you know about this, you can watch a man: if his fingers periodically make stroking movements on a glass, then he dreams of your caresses. Just keep in mind that a man may do this on purpose to set you up in a sexual way. This is a well-known pick-up technique.

How to choose a restaurant for a date? Best of all, leave it to the man. Most likely, he will choose the institution where he has already been before. Here he will feel confident, and, in addition, he will be aware of the prices. This means that he does not have to worry about his solvency. Sometimes you have to watch how a guy and a girl in love enter a beautifully decorated pub, ordering only beer and nuts .. But when they bring the bill, the guy is embarrassed. And all because he did not know that this restaurant is designed for employees of foreign embassies, so the prices here are appropriate. In any case, you should have enough money with you so that you can pay yourself if something happens. Make sure that your joint order does not exceed this amount - and then you will insure yourself one hundred percent.

So, a date in a restaurant assumes that nothing distracts you from communication. Remember: in no case do not turn a date into an interview in which you are trying to determine your compatibility. Just enjoy the process of mutual recognition of each other, and you will draw conclusions later. It is foolish to expect that you will form the right opinion about your companion in one date. Most likely, you will have time to discern only some features in it, and you simply will not see most of it. Tune in to the fact that you will meet many more times before you start a serious relationship. Don't force things.

What to talk about on a date? Talk about general and "non-dangerous" topics: about your hobbies, about the latest movies you watched, about public events. Do not try to find out the "consistency" of a man. Questions about where he works and how much he earns will strain him. However, if you want, you can talk about your own work. Avoid talking exclusively on "women's" topics. These include discussions of girlfriends, gossip (especially malicious), everyday topics and discussion of rags and cosmetics. Find topics that both of you are really interested in.

If everything suddenly flew out of your head at once, and the interlocutor was also not the most talkative, talk about what you eat. Evaluate the taste of dishes and drinks, tell what you like to cook or try, ask the man about it. Talking about food always sets you in a more "homely" and cozy way. WITH culinary theme smoothly move on to the topic of travel. Tell us where you have been, remember a couple of funny stories. Such a conversation will be supported by the most shy interlocutor - after all, he went at least fishing!

On a date in a restaurant, you simply have to wear a dress or skirt. No pants, no sportswear! As close to classic as possible. The skirt should not be too short, but you can afford the highest heels - because today you do not have to walk! Make sure your perfume won't overpower your food by applying just two drops to your earlobes. Before going on a date, be sure to check your manicure. If in normal conditions groomed nails can still be somehow hidden, then, sitting at a table in a restaurant, you will be forced to constantly keep your hands in sight. Just imagine how embarrassing it will be if your companion's eyes fall on the peeling paint on the nails!

By the way, about the views. The eyes, as you know, are the mirror of the soul. If a man avoids looking into your eyes or cannot hold your gaze for a long time, this is an alarm signal. Either he didn't like you, or he has some ulterior motives regarding you. It can be unequivocally said that he is not completely frank with you, and you should not trust him. True, there are burnt Casanovas who are able to lie, faithfully looking into your eyes and smiling most charmingly, but there are not so many of them.

Remember that while eating, some of the lipstick may smudge or "eat". You should definitely take with you a mirror, powder, lip pencil and the same lipstick that will be on you. After you've finished your main course, use any excuse to fix your makeup. Doing this at the table is not recommended, especially if the man is looking at you. If you can't send him to the bar for a cocktail, for example, or distract him by talking to the waiter, you'll have to retire to the ladies' room to "powder your nose." And in the literal sense.

Don't delay your date at the restaurant. You must spend a maximum of two hours there. You yourself will notice how you both get a little emotionally "tired". It is highly desirable to start gathering even before this moment. You should fly home on wings, and your admirer should look forward to the next date. To do this, you should not "oversaturate" communication, even if it is exceptionally pleasant.

And now - the moment of reckoning. When the waiter brings the bill, take out your wallet, but do not rush to open it. Look at the man with a questioning expression in his eyes. If he confidently and without hesitation says: "I'm paying," then smile and put the wallet back in your purse. Paying for your lady in a restaurant is a purely male prerogative, you shouldn't feel embarrassed or obligated. However, if the man hesitates, offer to pay the bill in half. Now many men imagine that girls go on dates only to profit at the expense of others. Show that you are not one of these people.

Let a man "look after" you - give a coat, open the door, hold your elbow on the stairs. At parting, thank him for a pleasant evening (or day), say that you really liked everything. It is very important to let a man know that he is competent enough in your eyes, that he did everything right. Without this, he will not feel full satisfaction. Add something personal: "You are very nice!", "I was interested with you!", "It's nice to talk with you!". Do not forget to smile goodbye - and wait for an invitation to the next date!

A first date, a dinner party, celebrating an important date in a close family circle - all this is an excellent occasion to organize a feast in a memorable place. Any trip to a restaurant is a special event and is accompanied by the selection of the appropriate image in the wardrobe. Stylishly chosen clothes, neat makeup and accessories will remain invaluable if loved ones who intend to share an important meal with you are not familiar with the basic rules of etiquette.

Peculiarities

The basics of restaurant service and etiquette have their own special distinctive features and seemingly insignificant little things that make up the general impression of the evening. Simple Rules begin to act long before the meeting, for example, it has long been believed that a table in a restaurant should be booked by a man, and also, if possible, he should approach the meeting place a little earlier than the girl.

The first to enter the institution is also a man, if the evening takes place in the company of guests, then according to all the rules, the one who initiated the meeting “leads”, also initially confirming their subsequent consent to payment.

This rule may partially lose its relevance, but still works at secular and business meetings of company leaders and dinner parties during negotiations.

Visitors at the very entrance, according to all the rules, are met by the administrator, also called the head waiter, or the head waiter of the restaurant. The meeting involves greeting and checking the table reservation. If you have a wardrobe, you should leave outerwear there, as well as purchases or, for example, a work briefcase. A man always helps a woman undress by offering a helping hand.

Landing is as follows: a man always gives a woman a more advantageous landing place, for example, overlooking the window or the stage, if the evening involves musical accompaniment. Pushing back one of the chairs, he invites the lady to sit down. Having settled down at the reserved table and having studied the presented menu, you need to make an order.

At this point, you need to correctly call the waiter. Any way to attract attention through all kinds of sounds is considered very ignorant: tapping cutlery on a table or dishes, trying to call out. In such a situation, a simple gesture is enough - a wave of the hand or a nod of the head, accompanied by direct eye contact with the attendants. The most correct option would be to address any representative of the service personnel directly by the name, which is always written on the badge attached to the form.

The opportunity to be the first to fulfill the order of the dish is always given to the guest or the girl, while the men follow as far as the choice is concerned. alcoholic beverages, then he is trusted by the male sex. In principle, initially the distribution of the menu is as follows: the main menu is for the female half, the bar list is for the male.

Try to order the same number of dishes as your companion.

An invitation to a restaurant is a pleasant and significant event. But do not relax, preparation for visiting a cultural institution requires special care. And it's not about the hairstyle and festive attire. The first thing that the guests present and the culprit of the planned event will pay attention to is your manners. Make sure you know the rules of restaurant etiquette.

Etiquette is not a whim of aesthetes, but a social necessity, expressed by a respectful attitude towards each other.

Who meets whom and where?

The initiator of the event should meet guests in the restaurant, and not vice versa. Therefore, he simply must be in the appointed place first. If the inviter is late, guests can sit down at the table they like and wait for the “violator” over a cup of tea. At the same time, the latecomer must state the reason for the delay, of course, a valid one.

For a romantic date, modern couples usually come together, meeting outside the restaurant. Some companies also prefer to enter the institution not alone, but in a group. Especially closed or located in an unfamiliar place. In these 2 cases, being late is extremely indecent. And they choose the meeting place that is more convenient for the female half to get to.

In a large company, it is customary to wait no more than a quarter of an hour for latecomers, after which you need to sit down at a table and start the event. Late-arriving guests should apologize, being careful not to interrupt the speech or toast, take their place, and remember to introduce themselves to their neighbors or drop a polite phrase.

in the lobby

And so, a young couple enters a restaurant. The gentleman must hold the front door and let the lady go ahead. Then help take off her coat and give her time to preen in front of the mirror. At this time, you can undress yourself and hand over your outerwear to the cloakroom.

A man must take off his hat at the entrance. And put on after leaving the restaurant.

In front of the mirror in the lobby, you are only allowed to straighten your hair with your hands. If you need more significant manipulations, you can briefly go to the ladies' room. Or men's, if you need to straighten your tie.

On the way to the table

The door to the restaurant hall itself is also opened by a man, letting the woman go ahead. Then he must overtake her and be the first to greet the approaching head waiter.

If the hall is big company, as a rule, the initiator of the banquet passes first. The waiter will contact him during the order and payment of the bill.

On the way to the table, the man again lets the lady go ahead, allowing her to follow the head waiter. But he chooses a table himself or, if there is no choice, the head waiter will point to a free one.

Having proceeded to the indicated table, the woman independently chooses the place she likes. And the man helps to take it by pushing and moving a chair. He himself takes a place to the left of the lady or opposite for a more comfortable conversation.

It is not civilized to move a chair to the table in a sitting position. If you are uncomfortable, it is better to just sit on its edge.

It happens that the lady is delayed. In this case, the gentleman must inform the head waiter about what awaits the companion. Then the administrator will be able to meet the guest and lead to her table. The man, at the same time, gets up and helps her sit down.

Place a napkin from the table on your knees. At the end of the meal - on the table, without turning.

Contacting the waiter and ordering food

The menu is usually served to each guest, but there are exceptions. If there is only one instance, the first course is chosen by the lady. And here there are several points that many prudes "stumble" about:

• You can not limit yourself to the cheapest dishes, this indicates doubts about the viability of a man.
• The most refined and unjustifiably expensive meals also not an option, because you are not one of those people who would take advantage of the opportunity. It is better to give preference to the golden mean.
• The phrase "Order to your taste" is not acceptable at all. But you can get off with the request "What do you advise"?

It just so happened that it was a man who communicates with the waiter. And the woman expresses her wishes to her companion, this is another great opportunity to show her care and resourcefulness to the lady. But just do not call the waiter to order. He himself will understand that the guests have already made their choice.

If a large company of guests is sitting at the table, the waiter will approach the initiator of the banquet. To the one who booked a table or entered the restaurant first. In this case, the inviter must consult with the others and place an order on his own, taking into account the general wishes.

After the waiter has opened the wine brought for testing, it is already indecent to refuse it. You can afford such a step only if the drink turned out to be spoiled.

meal

The way a person eats food, what appliances he uses and how he holds them in his hand, speaks of his culture and upbringing. Therefore, everyone should know the general rules of table etiquette by heart. And even more so when it comes to a restaurant.

They start eating when the dish is in front of each guest. If the banquet is too large, and the dishes are brought for a long time, the waiting guests may offer to start without them. Or you yourself can politely ask if you can start the meal.

An excellent piece of etiquette - not to keep your elbows on the table - is gradually becoming a thing of the past. In a friendly company, no one will focus on this, but at a banquet with the older generation it is better not to risk your reputation.

Eat slowly and calmly. You can not grimace, slurp and knock with a fork or spoon. Of course, you can't talk while eating. But at a banquet, you can be contacted at any second, in such a situation it is better to quietly apologize and chew your food than to mumble with a full mouth.

When a man and a woman dine at the table, the lady should start eating earlier, but finish after the gentleman. According to the rules of restaurant etiquette, you can’t rush a man for a meal, and even more so ask the waiter to bring the bill before it ends.

Different situations during a banquet

Even people who know the rules of etiquette from A to Z can get into an awkward situation during dinner at a restaurant. The following rules of behavior in the institution will help to avoid them:

1. Do not pick up appliances that you have dropped on the floor. The waiter will do it himself and replace them with new ones.
2. Broken dishes in a restaurant are no cause for fuss. You just need to ask the waiter to remove the fragments, and the cost of damage will automatically be included in the bill.
3. It is not cultural to fall apart in a chair, talk loudly, bend over a plate.
4. If the dish is absolutely not to your taste, discreetly spit the food into a paper napkin, and not into a plate, so as not to spoil the appetite of other guests.
5. Talking on the phone right at the table is the height of indecency. It is better to apologize and leave the table if the conversation is urgent.
6. If necessary, leave, even for a short time, you need to politely ask permission from friends.
7. Don't shout at the people at the next table. Need to talk? Invite a friend to your table or sit down at his table, asking permission from your friends.
8. If a familiar person has entered the restaurant, you can greet him with a nod of your head. As a rule, no one lingers at the table. If the fleeting conversation dragged on, it is better to leave the table and go into the hall. Or invite a person to sit at your table, but only if you yourself organized a banquet.
9. When late guests approach the table, the men stand in greeting, while the women remain in their places. If a lady has joined the banquet, everyone stands up.
10. A negative impression is made by people loudly calling the waiter. Insinuate your need for his presence with a simple nod of your head.
11. The organizer of the evening speaks about the end of the banquet. romantic dinner the man ends, but if the lady needs to escape urgently, she can do this by apologizing to the gentleman.

Who pays the bill

It is better to discuss payment of the bill in advance; it is unacceptable to do this in the presence of a waiter. After he brought the bill, you need to look into it and immediately pay.

Large banquets are most often paid for by the organizer, while it is not nice to expose the amount spent to the public. A friendly dinner can be paid together or asked for a separate bill for each. Alcohol in this case, men can pay for the ladies, which will be a sign of good manners.

If a couple ate at the restaurant, the man pays the bill himself. And the lady should not feel awkward and obligated. And in combination, when a man and a woman are friends, you can share the costs.

How to leave beautifully

At the end of the meal and payment of the bill, you must thank the waiter and the head waiter. After that, the man escorts the lady to the exit, opening the door for her. He takes outerwear from the wardrobe, dresses himself, and only then helps the lady to dress. She is patiently waiting for help.

It is very important for you to decide where to go on a first date with a girl. There must be a clear understanding of where to hold it.

Choose the place where YOU like first of all

You must know the very locations and places where you will have a great time with her. YOU SHOULD BE GREAT FIRST, and your condition will be transferred to the girl. Because everything you feel, she feels.

And she can't refuse

Having a clear idea of ​​where to go on a first date and what will you do there you will have self-confidence.

Even when you call her and call her, for example, to bungee jump, she will feel your passion and emotion in what you say. Because you love it.

Your urge to go on a date with you will be transferred to the girl. Both of you will have zeal and a pleasant anticipation before the meeting.

Good places to meet

deserted beach

I like to spend a date with a girl on a deserted beach Volga. There are almost no people there and there is a small beach. I take something with me in advance to lie on.

We hug and lie there with the girl, look at the waves, at the birds, at the ships. We look at each other, do massage, communicate. In warm weather, you can sunbathe together.

Amusement park

My other favorite date place is the summer park.. It fills me with childhood memories. There are big attractions there, after which both of you will have a high emotional uplift.

I'm not saying rollercoaster ride. Attractions will give emotions and drive, help you get closer will create a story between you.

I walked in this park as a child, I always liked it and therefore it is all the more special for me. If I like this park, the girl will like it there a priori.

Cart ride in the supermarket

Great place to go on a date - is to ride carts in the supermarket. When I'm with a girl, I plant her.

We can choose products, or we can just enjoy the trip.

The hypermarket route is always spontaneous and funny. It gives you a childish pleasant feeling of fun.

In one supermarket they already know me well. I got a couple of light warnings, but that doesn't stop me 🙂

Go shopping together

I had a date with a girl who lives near my house. We went on our first date with her. buy cookies in the supermarket. This is also a good opportunity to meet.

When you change locations and move with a girl, you create a certain history of relationships, a special connection is created. Therefore, it is very important not to sit and stick in one place.

Mistakes

Will stupid to go to a cafe, sit opposite each other and eat something b. Nobody hugs anyone, just talking and eating. Always sit next to me.

Practice your favorite sport together

There were girls who called me to skydive. They know that I am adventurous and love to challenge fear.

You can invite a girl to do your favorite sport. For instance, go for a run together in the evening.

Someone likes rope jumping, ice skating, swimming or just sitting in a cafe and drink tea together. To each his own.

The place where you like and where you are comfortable is the best place for a date.

Touch her from the start

More touch girl from the start your meeting. This is what you need to do on the first date from the very beginning.

If you cuddle with her initially, then she gets used to it and it will be normal for her. She will think: Yes, this guy is okay to cuddle and touch. There is nothing like this". Act natural, be yourself. This is the very behavior of a man that you need.

How to behave on a first date with a girl:

If you made the mistake of not touching or hugging the girl from the very beginning, then later it will be somehow strange and embarrassing for both of you. There will be resistance from her side! Therefore, make it easier for yourself to approach the girl - touch and hug her from the very beginning. Touch her because you feel like it, not because she likes it.

If you do everything as I described in the article, then there will be no more questions about how to behave on a first date with a girl.

Top 5 super rules for dating a beautiful girl.

Forget the perfect date

Know that the first date with a girl will never be smooth and perfect. There will always be some element of chance.

There will always be things that are out of your control. You can't calculate everything in advance. So don't worry about perfection.

Drop expectations: everything will happen by itself

Let everything happen. The perfect date is one that comes naturally. No need to guess, expect. Spontaneity is your best friend.

Not knowing what to say is normal. Never try to have the perfect date. Let it turn out the way it does.

You experience failure when you want to try your luck. If you do not set such a goal, any negative reactions do not concern you.

When a date is too perfect and even, it's very boring and uninteresting.

Don't buy flowers

I have never in my life bought flowers for a first date with a girl!

If you give flowers on a first date You're ruining everything for yourself, because:

• harder to touch;
• she will act arrogant in relation to you;
• it won't open you;
• you yourself put her on a pedestal above yourself.

Understand that on the first date, you can just spend time with her and that's enough. No gifts or flowers needed.

Video with my approach

In the next video, I made an approach to a girl who was originally talking to someone on the phone.

I interrupted her communication and took her with me. Didn't wait for her to hang up.

The way a guy touches a girl, confidently or dominantly touching her is not very important. In my video, I advise you to pay attention to other subtle points.

By the way, many guys would wait for the girl to finish on the phone. But it's so uninteresting. See all the details of my acquaintance in this video.

If she says buy me this, buy me that

You say, “No, don't wait. I like you! I'm not going to pay for you. I like you, I want you, I can give you a lot of pleasure! But that doesn't mean I'm your sponsor! I'm being honest with you."

And that's it, she immediately understands: Oh what a man. Everything is clear now."

She will not demand gifts and other things.

You let her know who you are.

And that's it. This is a great start to any relationship where everything is built on sincerity.

The beginning of a relationship without lies, where a woman does not try to suck money out of a man and a man is not trying to buy a woman.

I'm not prepared to change my behavior to keep this 22 year old hottie attracted to me!

What you can talk about with a girl on a first date - a detailed article.

How to properly hug a girl.

For the first kiss, suck without words + video of a guy passionately kissing a girl.

The right way to date

Advanced guys never say they're going on a "date with a girl."

The word "date" greatly limits your perception of meeting her.: as if there will be something official like a candlelight dinner, rose petals, fireworks and other heresy. All this will bind and hinder you. Why limit yourself?

Tell yourself: I'm not going on a date, but "to see a girl", "spend time with a girl", "enjoy communication with a girl". You go to meet and "find out if you're right for each other or not".

Exactly this type of thinking will allow you to be yourself and be liberated. You will not feel the great responsibility and importance of the meeting.

You are already self-sufficient and there is no reason not to.

Men have trouble understanding what is, who they are now is enough.

There is no reason to be insecure.

You are - that's enough.

All this knowledge will give you an understanding of how to have the best first date with a girl and get the result.

Call a girl and put everything you learned from the article into practice.

You can also get other secrets of seducing women and dating them by signing up for individual training with me.

It is believed that etiquette was invented, not only so that snobs could lift their chins by choosing the right fork for fish. They did this so that people would not experience inconvenience.

Modern etiquette: Rules to know and not to forget

Here is a couple in love at the entrance to the cafe and crumples: either the girl is torn to grab the handle, then the guy awkwardly pushes the glass with his hand, then the girl dives under his arm like a dolphin, and he, bending, crawls in after him. This awkwardness would not have happened if both knew for sure: the young man opens the door to the girl while she is waiting nearby.

But are all the other rules really necessary, or are some of them hopelessly outdated? Let's figure it out.

"Do not start eating until the waiters have finished serving the dishes and until all the guests have sat down at the table."

Well, let's say, at the banquet on the occasion of the 60th anniversary, this really needs to be remembered. It would be foolish to sit in front of everyone at the table and start cutting yourself up as soon as possible.

However, in modern realities, most often gatherings with friends take place in an informal atmosphere, and even for birthdays, everyone gathers as best they can. And here it’s stupid, on the contrary, it would be for everyone to wait for Vasya and Lucy, who are always late.

But to start grabbing something from a plate, which the waiter has just set and to which the sauce and cutlery have not yet been reported, is really ugly.

By the way, you should also not salt or pepper the dish before you have tried it, because this gesture will be perceived by the cook as an insult. Well, if the chef, of course, sees ...

This is true for the most lavish reception, where people still bother with serving their ten courses.

But in fact, in restaurants, the trend to simplify serving has long been gaining momentum. For example, in Scandinavian Björn, everything that can be served on stone and wooden boards is served on boards. In bars, in general, half of the menu is tapas (snack for the company), and you have to eat tapas with your hands. Burgers, chicken wings...

Moreover, rarely in any modern restaurant there is a large assortment of forks, most often a trinity: a knife, a fork, a spoon ... Everything is wrapped in a napkin and placed on each table, regardless of what the guest decides to order.

"Don't put anything on the table that isn't food."

And there really is nothing to add. It concerns girls first of all. They are very fond of laying out mirrors near the plate, lipstick, or not just putting a bag on the countertop, but a whole trunk with all the essentials. Men, in turn, lay out packs of cigarettes, car keys, wallets ...

This is all you need to keep to yourself. And phones too. Yes, yes, everyone knows that you are a business person and the Prime Minister can call you at any moment, but let this call disturb you from your jacket pocket. It’s difficult, of course, that’s how it is and not knowing if your subscribers like the photo with the salad, but what can you do.

If you eat breakfast, lunch or dinner alone, looking at your phone or reading a book over coffee is quite normal.

Do you know what item can still be put on the table? A small elegant cocktail handbag for women. Only this one.

Also, the bag cannot be placed on your knees or on your chair, but it can be hung on the back of a chair or placed on the floor if there is no special chair (these are often offered in restaurants). The briefcase is also placed on the floor. This is just as important to remember as the fact that the umbrella is always dried closed.

"You should not rub wooden sticks against each other, put them on a bowl, point them at food or move this food on a plate."

When the Japanese see the Russians wielding sticks, they are overtaken by a pre-infarction state. It is, of course, great that we have learned not only to grab sushi chopsticks, but also to dip them in soy sauce. But in order to reveal a certain level of knowledge Japanese cuisine, there is much more to be learned.

For example, a well-bred Japanese always holds the chopsticks down with the ends with which he takes food. He really does not show them to the beauty he likes at the next table, he does not put them on a bowl with sauce, because this is a gross violation of etiquette.

Don't stick your chopsticks vertically into your food. In East Asia, this is how they designate an offering to the dead.

Do not put cutlery on the table after you have started eating. After that, they can only be put on a plate.

And don't pass food with chopsticks. This is actually a Japanese funeral ritual.

"Don't forget to tip. Tip must be at least ten percent (20 percent in the US) of the order."

Everything happens in life. Sometimes you have to ask the waiter to exchange a bill in order to leave him for tea. Sometimes guests can walk to the nearest ATM. But this is all within the bounds of decency.

But if you did not leave a tip, it means that you categorically did not like the service. This is your form of protest of sorts.

And the trifle is also not worth leaving. Not only because a trifle is still suitable only for tea at a gas station. But also because, first of all, it will be inconvenient for you when the waiter vertically takes the folder with the check and from there, coins fall loudly, like from Pinocchio. It also happens that the waiter, coldly thanking, returns the coins to the guest.

Who pays?

And here the most interesting begins. Etiquette has a lot of vintage rules about this. Most of them are outdated, but it's still interesting to remember them.

And the inviter pays. That is, there is a huge difference between the wording "let's go to a restaurant" and "I invite you to a restaurant" even for people of the same sex. In addition, it is believed that a woman can pay herself if she met a man right in a restaurant (but if alcoholic drinks were drunk, the gentleman should pay for them).

But all this in the 21st century, of course, is observed less and less frequently. But the last rule in modern realities has not been canceled: the question of "who pays" must be resolved before the arrival of the waiter, with him - mauvais ton.

A first date, a dinner party, celebrating an important date in a close family circle - all this is an excellent occasion to organize a feast in a memorable place. Any trip to a restaurant is a special event and is accompanied by the selection of the appropriate image in the wardrobe. Stylishly chosen clothes, neat makeup and accessories will remain invaluable if loved ones who intend to share an important meal with you are not familiar with the basic rules of etiquette.

Peculiarities

The basics of restaurant service and etiquette have their own special distinctive features and seemingly insignificant little things that make up the overall impression of the evening. Simple rules begin to operate long before the meeting, for example, it has long been believed that a table in a restaurant should be booked by a man, and also, if possible, he should approach the meeting place a little earlier than the girl.

The first to enter the institution is also a man, if the evening takes place in the company of guests, then according to all the rules, the one who initiated the meeting “leads”, also initially confirming their subsequent consent to payment.

This rule may partially lose its relevance, but still works at secular and business meetings of company leaders and dinner parties during negotiations.

Visitors at the very entrance, according to all the rules, are met by the administrator, also called the head waiter, or the head waiter of the restaurant. The meeting involves greeting and checking the table reservation. If you have a wardrobe, you should leave outerwear there, as well as purchases or, for example, a work briefcase. A man always helps a woman undress by offering a helping hand.

Landing is as follows: a man always gives a woman a more advantageous landing place, for example, overlooking the window or the stage, if the evening involves musical accompaniment. Pushing back one of the chairs, he invites the lady to sit down. Having settled down at the reserved table and having studied the presented menu, you need to make an order.

At this point, you need to correctly call the waiter. Any way to attract attention through all kinds of sounds is considered very ignorant: tapping cutlery on a table or dishes, trying to call out. In such a situation, a simple gesture is enough - a wave of the hand or a nod of the head, accompanied by direct eye contact with the attendants. The most correct option would be to address any representative of the service personnel directly by the name, which is always written on the badge attached to the form.

The opportunity to be the first to order a dish is always given to a guest or a girl, while men follow, as for the choice of alcoholic beverages, it is trusted to the male sex. In principle, initially the distribution of the menu is as follows: the main menu is for the female half, the bar list is for the male.

Try to order the same number of dishes as your companion.

How to behave at the table?

The rules of etiquette in a restaurant require the absence of unnecessary things on the table surface. Thus, it is considered very ignorant to put a phone, keys, wallet or any clothing accessories on the table. A particularly gross mistake is to put a bag on the table. This is not only ignorant towards your conversation partner or company, but also distracts the waiter and other staff of the establishment.

As you sit at your table, keep your posture in mind: with the right fit, there will be no desire to put your elbows on the table or once again lean towards it. It is best to cover your knees with a napkin prepared when setting the table. If you need to leave while eating, then a napkin is placed on your seat.

While waiting for an order, it's time for a little conversation, but loud conversations violate the proper atmosphere for eating, so in restaurant establishments it is customary to communicate with partners in a low voice. Vivid stories, rich gestures, as well as loud peals of laughter are also an indicator of impoliteness.

The waiter serving the table brings the dishes as they are ready, but you should start eating only when everyone in your company has a dish or common snacks.

The basic rules of behavior during meals involve 8 simple steps:

• Do not blow on hot food, wait until the dish has cooled down.
• Maintain correct posture at the table. Do not rest your elbows on the table, keep your posture, do not hide your hands under the table, and do not lean too low over the plate.
• Don't spit out the bones. It is considered impolite to spit fruit, fish or other bones into the palm of your hand or a napkin, try to get the bones with a fork. A more neutral option seems to be shifting the bone into a napkin brought to the mouth.

• Do not eat from someone else's plate, and even more so cutlery. Romance of movie scenes turns out to be a very ignorant violation of table manners
• Do not talk with your mouth full, try not to slurp or make any other sounds that give any assessment of the cooked dishes.
• Don't use personal utensils when serving a shared dish.
• Correctly cut off one piece from the cooked dish, only after eating it, cut off the next one. You should not cut the cooked dish as a whole, the constant picking in the plate looks ridiculous.
• To avoid incidents and for greater confidence, try to dry your hands as often as possible and blot your mouth with a napkin.

How to use the devices?

The most common fear of anyone who goes to a dinner party in good restaurant for the first time, it is the inability to cope with the amount of cutlery, and the fear of looking stupid. In fact, there is always logic in everything, and a table set in advance can be read.

Appetizers are served first. A very small plate diameter will tell you which first spoon or small snack fork is better to use. Cutlery is laid out in a strict order of serving dishes.

Next, the first and second courses are served, the devices also most often correspond to the diameter of the plate, and all subsequent ones do not differ much. If today you do not eat soup, then a tablespoon will remain in the same place., and at a certain time of changing the dish, the waiter will take it away.

Devices for fish dishes: a specially shaped knife resembling a spatula (which is especially useful when cutting and separating bones) and a fork with shorter cloves.

Before dessert is served, the cutlery must be changed again. The dessert fork has three cloves, and each of the devices is different in size.

Dessert cutlery is also served for fruit, because it is considered indecent to take food with your hands.

It is not enough to figure out which device and what to eat and cut, it is also important to do it correctly. For example, a knife should always be held in the right hand. If you're not used to eating with a knife, make a habit of practicing this simple skill at home at separate meals. The spoon, as a rule, is not filled entirely, so as not to spill the contents in any case.

The position of the devices on the table is an opportunity to maintain a dialogue with the staff of the institution. For example, if during a meal it became necessary to leave, but you intend to continue the dish you started, it is customary to put the cutlery in such a way that their ends touch, and if you have finished with the dish, then the cutlery is placed parallel to each other.

There are also other little things that can even tell you whether you liked a certain dish. By crossing the cutlery in such a way that the knife falls between the cloves of the fork, you can tell that you didn’t like the dish due to its taste or other characteristics, and to tell the opposite and please the waiters and cooks, place the cutlery perpendicular to the side of the table and point it to the right.

After eating, wipe your mouth and hands with a napkin that can be placed on a dish, and place the cutlery parallel to each other with the handles down, so you show that the meal is over, and the waiter can clean the table or continue serving by serving the next dish.

Simple combinations can be a great compliment for the attendants or a signal to pay attention to.

Often a controversial issue arises after eating if you need to pay the bill. Restaurant etiquette assumes that the inviter or the man pays the bill. Splitting the bill is appropriate if dinner or any other meal was friendly. In restaurants, it is customary to give a tip, a pleasant compliment for the staff will be ten percent added to the total bill.

In fashionable establishments, as a rule, in addition to the waiter and the administrator of the hall, the attendants also have to interact with the sommelier. Rarely is a pleasant dinner complete without a bottle of good wine.